noun; the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset.
Mastering patience is essential to live a loving, successful life.
In today’s society, everything is instant and in your face, right now. And that can be good for some instances. Like when you have to transfer money over from another account, or when your boo hits you up during the day. But when it comes to intangible things like building love, and creating success, there is not an instant result. If you wanted a lipstick from Fenti, it is as easy as going to the website and ordering one, or simply driving to the store to purchase. If you’re really in a rush now you can order…READ MORE
1.) Stop Hating Yourself
It’s not even that you hate yourself, you just don’t love yourself enough. You rather someone else love you. Or what you think love means. You rather focus on a relationship or a career instead of nurturing your own personal growth. It’s not that you hate yourself, you just hide parts of you…so you don’t have to deal with them. You don’t hate yourself, you just accept whatever you can get, just so you can say you have it.
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Ladies. It’s time for us to change our way of thinking! I encounter women of different races, sizes, educational levels, etc. who cannot get themselves in order to get to happiness. The reason why so many of US are unhappy is because our thinking is fucked up. There are many elements in our society that we can place blame on for our inner-negative-self-ideologies, however it is OUR job as women, a-step in our womanhood, if you will, to evolve our negative thoughts into positive thoughts that will prepare us for happiness, motivate future endeavors, and build confidence, and self-esteem.
- The first thing that you should do to change your way of thinking is to stop carrying the guilt of past mistakes you’ve made. It’s not that deep! It doesn’t matter what you have done. There’s no way of becoming who you are destined to be if you down yourself from mistakes of the past… READ MORE
We all took sex Ed in school and figured out that EVERY woman has a vagina, right? So what makes yours so special? Why brag about something that EVERY woman has? No good coochie ever made a man stay with a woman. I don’t mean staying by breaking up with you, forming a new relationship with another woman, and still having sex with you on the side. I don’t mean a man staying with you by stringing you along in a situationship. That’s not staying and that’s not a bond. You’re just easy and accessible. Still don’t believe me?
You messin with a dude that don’t want you.
Let me explain, don’t get all defensive on me now. We have all been there as women. You crush over a guy that you’re so attracted to, and try to hold him to the same rules as the other fuckboys. Like you don’t call them first, respond to texts immediately, or you wait until the fourth time you see him to let him finger you, you know shit like that. But when you get around them you just laugh and smile, that dopey Oh-I’m-So-Attracted-To-You-I-Can’t-Believe-You-Want-Me-I-Don’t-Know-What-To-Say-Smile. This is so boring…Read More
So let me tell you what I know. Men know that we love to talk about ourselves. They know we want to feel supported, appreciated. Loved, and all that. They use this to their advantage by acting like they’re getting to know us. Through this façade they are able to discover our insecurities, and issues. It’s really simple to do this because we tell them everything they need to know. Regardless if its willingly, or covertly.
Stay with me.
Let’s just say on the first date a man who you were attracted to took you somewhere impressive, treated you like…READ MORE
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Have you ever went to the movies, out to eat, or a club by yourself?
I actually just started hangin’ with myself more. This is something new to me because I’m used to having at least one friend go somewhere with me. But as of late, I have been wanting to participate in different activities but passed up the events because I had no one to accompany me. It’s happened so many times over the past year and for all different reasons. Either my friends didn’t have the money at the time, couldn’t find a babysitter, hair wasn’t done, etc. &this was vice versa too ‘cus I know I passed up some fun events with my friends as well for those same reasons.
The Social Media Blues: Don’t Judge A Book By Its Cover
I remember a couple of years ago around the holidays I deleted all my social media connections. At this time I was already depressed and after being online for only 15 minutes I was feeling even worse. Viewing all the loving photos from my friends and their families. The abundance of presents and big home cooked feasts. I didn’t want to see all the joyfulness of others. It’s not that I was being a hater (maybe I was..alil bit) but I already was in a bad place so seeing people in an utter bliss of holiday spirits was not making me feel any better. My rationale mind didn’t take into consideration that the couple that I see posting pictures has been arguing the entire year and are on the verge of breaking up, or that my other Facebook friend that posted 1000 gifts for her two year old son maxed out all of her credits cards to show those gifts off.Have you ever felt like this?
Photo Credit: Google ImagesToday I wanted to address something that I see in all ages and races of women. I feel as women we have identity issues. Well, that’s an understatement. I mean an identity issue particularly when it comes to being in a relationship…Ok, let me just say it: WE BE TOO HYPED ABOUT HAVING A MAN OR A GIRLFRIEND, JUST BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP PERIOD. Read More
First things first. Don’t be embarrassed. Being pregnant is not something to be embarrassed or ashamed about. When you come in the room for the first time, or walk around campus, there will be eyes on you. Own it. I know sometimes it’s hard to be confident while being pregnant but take pride in the fact that you are making an effort to improve you and your child’s life by attending school. Always keep the goal in mind.
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Thanks for your comment. I agree, we have to have other things going in our lives besides a relationship.
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I agree that some women can lose their identity in relationships. Being the perfect girlfriend for their boyfriend consumes them and then every girls night out turns into a couples retreat. I hate that shit. I think it's healthy in relationships to spend some time apart and have time set aside for yourself. Being in love and a relationship is beautiful but one should stay true to their self and find their own happiness.
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